How to deal with stress...
Blogs regarding life style choices can go on for ever as people are going through there own journeys on life, everyone is at different stages, with different mind sets and experiences. I am going to talk about general stress as a whole and I hope it can help a few people.
So what is stress? Stress is a body reaction in response to change, demand or pressure. The body reacts to this in an emotional, physical or mental response depending on how the individual deals with a situation. Stress can be experienced through bad thoughts, your environment and the symptoms within the body.
The human body has been designed to experience stress to create a reacted response. This can be beneficial in some circumstances as it keeps us alert, ready to avoid danger, feeling stressed allows you to learn from experiences and to allow people to appreciate the good times, it keeps you motivated and focused. Stress can be a great tool for being under pressure as it makes you get S*&T done. Back in the day where we had to fight for survival (which our body was designed for), stress was a great emotion to have, where as now that time has moved on, our stresses are going towards the pressure of work, family, friends where we are feeling the same emotion but we do not know how to deal with the symptoms such as the ‘fight or flight response’. This response can be chronically stimulated when experience prolonged periods of stress.
So what happens to the body during stressful times? Your body releases chemicals such as cortisol, adrenaline and noradrenaline. These chemicals can be a great thing when we are wanting to experience the stress emotion such as avoiding danger but can be a bad thing if its in response to day to day life occasions which leads to many mental and physical concerns.
Being able to identify your stresses in life is the first step of knowing how to overcome them and/or cope.
Stress can come in many different types whether that be work related, stress to survive, putting yourself under stress from what you eat and drinking including alcohol, coffee, energy drinks, fast foods, family stresses, negative energies, pressure of society. Very often we will have a perception of what we believe people expect from us and put our self under un necessary pressure to meet expectations when the expectations were not there in the first place, or we put self-imposed pressures on yourself because we are worried about what other people may think or what you should have or where you should be at certain times of your life.
The figures for stress relating illness’s are dramatically rising and its time to take actions on our thoughts and emotions on how we deal with day to day stress’s in society.
Are you stressed/putting your body under stress?
· Not enough sleep
· Over sleeping
· Feeling tired/ fatigued
· Lack of energy
· Less confidence
· Care to much about what people think
· Heart palpitations
· Lack of concentration
· Upset stomach
· Digestive problems
· Bad thoughts
· Over eating/ under eating
· Mind chatter
· Emotional out bursts
· Muscle tension
· Low immune system (tendency to feeling ill, skin break outs, fluid retention)
So how do we deal with stress?
1. For starters- The world will not end with the problems you have in your life right this very second. Although it feels intense, the specific stress right now will soon go. Experience the emotion/ situation and work with it.
2. Distance yourself from negative people and negative energies as this will pull you down. Emotions can be contagious and if you are constantly around negative minded people or people that you cannot connect with then it can pull you down and create stress in the mind and body. If you have people around you who you can not cut out of your life then distance yourself. Be careful who you spend your energy on and save yourself for people who deserve it.
3. Be around people who bring out the best in you. Be around people who make you feel comfortable enough to be who ever you want to be in what every mood you are in. Be around people who encourage you, who push you to reach goals and dreams and who motivate you to be the best you can be. Find people who you connect with or learn from.
4. Ultimately there comes a time where we need to take actions in our own thoughts, feelings and emotions. It is up to us on how we deal with situations and how we utilise feelings and emotions. It is to easy for people to add more stress on to their life due to the way they look at situations. E.g Being in traffic, working long hours, being wrapped up in course work, running late, negative posts on social media, being sucked in by society. We need to take control on what we allow ourselves to get sucked into. You can learn from situations, utilise stress, see the good in things, allow your mind to see the positive orrr you can dwell on situations you are in. You could have the worst day in the world but how you deal with that situation is up to you.
5. Take control of your own life- If you do not want to do something, don’t do it. If you are in a bad situation, reflect on what you can do to get yourself out of it. Listen to what your body wants at that specific time. Is it a situation that may take time? What would be the starting steps to get yourself out of the moment that you are in. Do more things you enjoy, be around people you enjoy, take control of what information you allow yourself to absorb. People get so wrapped up in what people may think, the pressure of life/society that its dragging people down and creating un necessary stress on yourself. If you spend more time focusing on your own life, your own goals around people who you feel good to be around you begin to care less about everything else that goes on around you and you start feeling more confident and motivated in yourself.
6. Consistency is key- Bringing yourself out of stressful situations requires a change in mind set and action but results will not come straight away. You must acknowledge the problem, put actions in to place and be consistent with these actions. Whether that be physically changing a situation or changing a habit or mind set. Baby steps go a long way and if we learn that things will not heal at once and that perfection takes time, we learn to be at peace with ourselves and let go of negative situations. We learn to allow things to fall into place when it is ready and we appreciate the process.
7. Of course… take time to relax, have fun and exercise. Most potent form of stress and depression relief is how you look after your body. Whether it is a long nature walk, going to the gym, having a hot bath. Making time for you is important. You cannot give the best of yourself to other people if you are not ok in yourself and these factors play a massive role on health for the mind and body.
8. Control things what you can control and let go of things you cannot.
9. Read, learn, educate your mind!
10. Drink lots of water, hydration is great for removing toxins from the body, allowing cells in the body to do there rob properly and improving moods and energy.
11. Do good for other people. When you help others you gain the sense of achievement and ‘feel good’ factor. Giving off good energies will attract good in people.
12. Eat a healthy balanced diet. The gut plays a huge role on how we think, how we act, it helps to calm body symptoms such as depression and anxiety, it alkaline toxins, it improves mood, helps sleep… You are what you eat.
13. Just remember… Everyone is at different stages of there life, everyone has there own stories, experiences, no ones life is as perfect as what it seems. Your wanting to be like someone else but maybe someone is wanting to be just like you? Try and begin to look after yourself, bring the best out in yourself, focusing on your own goals and where you want to be rather than looking at what you do not have.
14. Manage yourself. Time management and organisation helps towards not only leading a more peaceful life style but helps to achieve goals and give you a clearer vision on life and what needs to be done in stressful situations.
15. One last thing…. Be more assertive on the way you deal with situations, listen to internal chatter, work with your emotions (do not fight against them) and listen to your body.